Have you ever had one of those days where you look into the mirror and see every wrinkle, every blemish, or every area of redness, and label yourself less than beautiful? If you have, you are not alone.
How we view ourselves in the mirror has more of an impact on our self image than we would like to admit. If we have scars, or other “imperfections” in our facial appearance, it can be even more devastating. So what can you do to ensure a healthy self image — building self esteem? Read on to learn more from Ayr Skin Care’s own Kirsten.
Is Society At Fault?
The concept that “less than perfect is not beautiful “ has pervaded our society. When we look at the covers of magazines, or watch actors on TV, it is easy to measure our appearance with theirs, and come up lacking. It is interesting to note, that most times those images, including images in movies, have been altered by airbrush or editing programs.
There are people in the industry that actually have the job of going through TV shows and movies frame by frame, and adjusting the size of people’s figures, removing double chins and wrinkles, and making the actor appear more pleasing to the eye. Based upon that knowledge alone, you need to understand that you are comparing yourself with an idea of “beauty” which does not exist.
Why Is Important To Have A Healthy Self Image?
Smiling when you look into the mirror is more than an exercise in vanity, it can actually help you live longer! When you look into the mirror, and really see yourself as an entire person, and not just one particular “fault”, you are able to remember that you are more than the sum of your parts.
It is up to you to find your worth. Are you a good person? Do you love and help others? It’s only another step forward to find something good and loveable about yourself. The ability to love yourself and others creates a healthy body, healthy self image, and lowers stress level — building self esteem and helping you live longer.
What Can You Do?
There are simple steps that you can take to counteract that small negative voice that pops up when you look in the mirror. The more you remind yourself that you have your own unique beauty, inside and out, the easier it will be to smile when you see your image. Here are some steps you can take to help with building self esteem and a healthy self image:
Let it Go
We create an image of ourselves, sometimes as early as childhood. If you have been told you are less than beautiful, by family, peers at school, or your own inner monologue, let go of that idea now. It is not creating a place of peace in your body or helpful in building better self esteem.
Keep track of negative thinking. When you are in a negative space mentally, it is very difficult to see keep a healthy self image. Every imperfection seems magnified. A good practice is to do something to help others — something that will make you smile. Smiling is stress-reducing, and helping others reminds you that you are a good person. Beauty shines out from within…so let your light shine!
Take Care of Yourself
Take care of your body. You may have heard the old saying that “your body is a temple”. There are many ways to interpret this saying, but the simple truth is that you have one body, and it needs to last your entire lifetime. The better you care for your body, skin, and face, the longer it will take care of you!
Take time once or twice a week to give yourself a facial, or if you cannot do that, take time daily to massage your face while you are washing. Even a minute or two can be used as time to be grateful for the body that you have, and to reaffirm your desire to take care of it.
Focus on the Positive
Focus on the things that you do like…, your eyes, your ability to laugh, your kind smile as you help someone, or maybe you have a talent you are proud of. Listing a few positive aspects about yourself can help you build a healthy self image.
Find something to center on that exists in the here and now. You might remember that you are respected at work, that you are still dragging your body to yoga twice a week, or another accomplishment that you’ve recently been recognized for.
It is the little things in the here and now that will help you create a healthy self image and ensure you remember that you are always growing and evolving to become a better person.
Find Yourself Worthy of Love
When you decide that you are worthy of love, you open yourself up to endless possibilities and a healthy self image. A good friend, Lise Welsh, MA, MFT has this wonderful affirmation you can use to remember that your joy, love, and beauty is already inside of you. She states:
“My decision that I am worthy is what makes me worthy. If something (or someone) outside of me was going to deliver that, it would have happened by now. Because I am smart, good, and gosh darn it, people like me!”
Think how great you would feel if you read an affirmation like this to yourself. Take care of yourself, mind and body. You are worth it.
Bye for now!