It’s Valentine’s Day again. That time when couples get mushy and those without a significant other may be feeling a little down in the dumps. No matter your current relationship status or if you even want to be in one, here are some self-care ideas for re-imagining what Valentine’s Day self-care means, and why it can be your most important day ever.
The Value of Your Journey
We all come into this world alone and leave alone. Sounds a little harsh, but it is fundamentally true. Hopefully you had parents that loved and cared for you, and hopefully, when you leave this lifetime, you will be surrounded by people who will miss you, but at the end of the day, we are all on our own journey.
Even though we come in alone, it is important to recognize that we live in an amazing world. From the moment we look around at the world through newborn eyes we are instantly flooded with a world which reflects life, growth and reacts to positive energy and love. There is art, music, laughter, and a population of people on this planet who try to help each other and to make a difference in the world. When we take the time to stop and look around ourselves, we see a world that is really amazing and beautiful.
So, we are on this journey through life learning about ourselves and others, but what does that have to do with value? The true value of life is in recognizing that love and beauty are all around us and in everything that we see. This includes you, and this includes how you care for yourself. You are with yourself in this lifetime more than anyone else. You will never understand anyone as well as you understand yourself. How can this knowledge help you find ways to love yourself even more?
If we are with ourselves throughout our lifetime, and closer to ourselves than any other person, then don’t we want to be the best friend that we have ever had? Here are some self-care ideas that you can implement in your life to remember your own worth, love yourself, and be your own best friend:
Start the day with a smile. When you wake up, try to remember to breathe and start the day with a positive attitude. Would you want to be around a depressing person all day long if you could help it? Talk the inner talk until you believe it!
Love the person you see in the mirror. We live in a physically conscious world, filled with magazines that have airbrushed “perfect” looking people on them, and our self-image can plummet. When you look into the mirror, look into your own eyes and see their beauty. If there are wrinkles, that does not mean that you are no longer beautiful. True beauty is from within, and most wrinkles are from concentrating or smiling!
Take time to smell the roses. You’ve heard it, but do you practice this? When you see a small child laughing in a park, stop and smile. When you pass a lovely rose bush, take a sniff! Being aware of beauty and love around you will make you feel wonderful, and it is healthy to live in the moment.
Remember that there has never been anyone on this planet exactly like you. You are a beautiful creation that is unique and filled with talents, love, and your own personal beauty and personality. Taking time to remember this is going to remind you that you are a person of worth. You may never know how your presence impacts those around you, but you can try to help as many as you can by just being yourself.
Stop the negative and critical self-chatter. If you had a best friend that whined constantly, or constantly criticized themselves, wouldn’t you try to remind them to be gentle with themselves, and give them your own ideas about self-care? You would recognize that they were doing their best, remind them how great they are, and tell them to go easy on themselves. So, if we are “our own best friend” in this lifetime, then we must remember to do this for ourselves. Catch yourself being critical of your actions and be kind to yourself.
Why Celebrate Valentine’s Day with Self-Care?
Valentine’s Day in our modern times is a day set aside so that we can show the ones that we care about that we love them. This is said by commercial means (flowers, chocolate, glittery cards) but also by spending time in a loving way by talking, having a date night, or giving a hug. When you stop to take the time to share your love, leave a little for yourself too. There’s a big idea for self-care! Give yourself a pampering facial at home, or treat yourself to an at-home manicure or bubble bath. Whatever you choose to do, remember that it is a day when we can remember to take stock of our self-love, and what we bring to the world.
Ways to Love Yourself More
One of my favorite things to talk about is self-love. I’ve talked in previous blogs about the art of loving yourself, or pampering yourself with a bubble bath, or taking time once a week to give yourself a facial.
I didn’t always love myself. When I was younger and looked into the mirror, I used to criticize what I saw. My nose was too big, I had acne, or I wasn’t tall enough. It’s not easy to silence that voice in your head. Some people keep a journal where they write what they are grateful for, which helps them find ways to love themselves more.
Here’s an idea for self-care: remember all of the good in your life in order to lighten up your mood, cultivating gratitude for wherever you are at in life. Instead of thinking that I have a big nose, I can focus on how it helps me breathe. Actually, my sense of smell is much heightened, and it helps me in cooking as well as making our skin care collections at Ayr! And who says that noses have to be small anyway?
Once I got my inner critical voice quieted, I was able to find things that I loved about myself. For example, I love the way that I am a good friend to my friends. I love that I remember to say thank you for gifts that I am given, and I love that I try to feed my friends home cooked meals when we visit with each other. Those are just a few basic ways to love yourself more, and I am sure that you will have a very personal list of your own that you can focus on, but find them for yourself and focus on them.
Treat Yourself to Valentine’s Day Self-Care
Loving yourself may also include pampering. Maybe you can’t afford to run to the corner coffee shop for a fancy coffee, but if you know that you love cinnamon in your coffee, or a special flavored coconut milk, then you can have those in your house. When you wake up, you can start the day by giving yourself a treat like this. If you can, try sipping that special coffee on the patio or on a comfortable couch in your home. There are many ways we can do things for ourselves that don’t cost a lot of money.
I always include an at home facial in my weekend routine. I also don’t forget to wash my face and remove all makeup before bed each night. By taking care of my skin, I feel good about myself. I love to remove makeup at the end of the day and use my Restore Replenishing Night Cream and Awaken Eye Serum. As I am reading a book or watching TV, I feel luxurious and cared for, and when I wake up my skin feels amazing! Find something that works for you, and do it every day, with maybe a special treatment on the weekend. Even adding epsom salts and sea salt and a drop of essential oil to your bath can make it feel like a spa.
Love Begins Within
Work on accepting what you have been born with, and it makes it easier to see the unique beauty in others, giving you deeper ways to love yourself. As your heart opens, you will smile, your eyes will glow, and you will be filled with a new appreciation for life.
Use each Valentine’s Day to take care of yourself, and remember the wonderful person that you are. I’m going to end with one of my favorite quotes from a remarkable man, Fred Rogers, who said, “If you could only sense how important you are to the lives of those you meet; how important you can be to the people you may never even dream of.”
You are special just the way you are, and as you remind yourself of your importance, you bring a special light out into the world. Think how much better it would be in the world if we all did this as often as possible.
Happy Valentine’s Day from all of us at Ayr Skin Care. And remember… take time to pamper yourself with a self-care practice, and also to give yourself a hug!
Bye for now!
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